Emotional Blackmail

http://bookalist.net/?p=895724#

Gaslighting by NM

http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com/2006/10/characteristics-of-narcissistic.html?m=1

Stand up to the NM by exposing her

http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com/2006/10/characteristics-of-narcissistic.html?m=1